If I had to pick a favorite text this semester, it would be Sure Thing. Sure Thing is a story about a man named Sajeev and his wife Twinkle; they fell in love and decided to move into a house together. Sanjeev was a successful Indian man that was living in the United States. While moving into their new house, the couple found some items that were left behind by the previous owner. The items they found were not just regular left over household things—they were Christian sacraments and other Christian statues. Both Sanjeev and Twinkle were Hindu so all the Christian items did not mean much to them and their religious and cultural background. However, as the man in the house, Sanjeev did not want to keep the items that were left behind. In fact, he tried throwing them away a couple of times but Twinkle would not let him. Twinkle believed that the items that were left behind had some kind of meaning to the house and it would be very disrespectful to throw these Christian sacraments away. This disagreement over the leftover items ended up causing a good amount of tension between Sanjeev and Twinkle. And here is where I decided to begin to wrestle with the text for this blog. After all the arguing between the couple, Sanjeev ends up questioning his love for Twinkle. For example, the part that most caught my attention was when the narrator provided, “[Sanjeev] did not know if he loved [Twinkle].”
The reason I chose this part of the text was because I can not understand why Sanjeev would ever question his love for Twinkle if he truly loved her and was married to her, especially over mere items. Unfortunately, I know there are times when married couples divorce due to infidelity, or the fact that their love has simply “faded” throughout the years. Yet, Sanjeev and Twinkle are newlyweds that recently moved into a house together—they should be head over heels in love! Because of the little arguments over a Christian statue, Sanjeev questioned his love for his wife, Twinkle. Sanjeev specifically remembers the day Twinkle asked him if he loved her—he said, “Yes.” But, she never said it herself. So now he questioning if she ever really loved him. This concept just doesn’t make sense to me. The story is about a married couple that thought they loved each other and so they got married. Respectively, they moved into a house together to start a future. Where is the disconnect here?
To me, this story is character driven through out the whole thing. From the beginning the characters were in love, now the characters are questioning their love for each other. This leads me to think that there could be a possible break up in their marriage. Therefore, I interpret this section as way for readers to see that the couple is facing adversity in their life. I think that Twinkle is Sanjeev’s first love, and that is why he is questioning if he loved her or not.
Reading a little further it says, “In truth, Sanjeev did not know what love was, only what he thought it was not.” This sentence tells me that Sanjeev hasn’t experience love like this with anyone and he doesn’t know how to deal with thing like this. But he still chooses to go reconcile with his wife, despite his confusion of love. I feel like at this point Sanjeev is having a change of heart and wanting to settle this little argument like adults. His mom said, “You need a wife to look after and love.” Deep down, I believe Sanjeev knows that Twinkle is the one he loves simply by being with her every day.
This part is extremely important in this story. As I stated earlier, there are couples that get a divorce because their love has faded. However, I think that when you get married you promise one another to be with each other no matter what. You exchange vows of everlasting love and commit your lives together under the name of God. I think that Sanjeev realizes that this is the woman that he married and is going to spend the rest of his life. By him going back into the house and trying to work things out says a lot about his character.
Sanjeev’s character in this story comes off in a very conservative manner. He seems shy, but he has a lot to say when it comes down to it—there is always a lot on his mind, whether he says it or not. At the end of the story, Sanjeev shows his love by allowing his wife to keep the display of statues. He did not do it because he wanted to, but he did it because Twinkle really wanted to keep them. In marriage, there are times when you just have to let things go, you have to “pick your battles.” If one cannot let things go, little by little they will build up and it may result in the end of a relationship of marriage. Even though men can be stubborn sometimes, they must understand that women can be sensitive and that is okay—we are not the same. Does this mean if you don’t agree you will stop loving each other? No. But it will make you stronger as a couple.
One thing my mom has always told me was to try and work all of your issues out civilly when you are married, fighting often gets you hurt feelings. I really enjoyed reading this story and learning so much about these characters. This story can have so many questions that can arise from it. Can it be something religious? Does the display mean something? Can this story be how a man should act with a tough situation? There are so many meanings that this story could offer each and ever reader. For now, I will let my mind continue to wander as to what it might mean to me right now. One important thing that I obtained from this story though, is to always love you wife, no matter what.
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